There is the error zone of thought that we naturally gravitate to, and then there is the zone of thought that reduces the probability of error, heals wounds and is not prone to make decisions based on historical ego.
I want to coach you up into the second zone. That means you will make choices based on: desire to, choose to, and love to.
At the Got to level there is an imbalance of data (sensory input) that leads to a ratio of 7:1 of positives or negatives against the balance (eg: 7 positives to one negative or visa versa) the ratio decreases from there all the way to the top, the love to, at 1:1.
Most decisions we make are therefore somewhere in between the two and are a combination of emotion, logic and stimulation (reaction) and I want you to consider how foolish it is to trust those three.
Emotion is a culmination of issues passed to you by family, culture, friends, education, mind wash and your own experience. All of which can be blind sided by introspective awareness.
Logic relies on the tested seeking information to validate a pre set hypothesis. The experiment and the experimenter are never separate.
Stimulation is pavlovian. It's more reactive and maybe like ice-cream makes your mouth water, or alcohol makes you feel comfortable, these reactions are very subconscious and hugely self sabotaging. They are your addictions.
We will discuss this in coaching. Please do the exercise below.
I want to coach you up into the second zone. That means you will make choices based on: desire to, choose to, and love to.
At the Got to level there is an imbalance of data (sensory input) that leads to a ratio of 7:1 of positives or negatives against the balance (eg: 7 positives to one negative or visa versa) the ratio decreases from there all the way to the top, the love to, at 1:1.
Most decisions we make are therefore somewhere in between the two and are a combination of emotion, logic and stimulation (reaction) and I want you to consider how foolish it is to trust those three.
Emotion is a culmination of issues passed to you by family, culture, friends, education, mind wash and your own experience. All of which can be blind sided by introspective awareness.
Logic relies on the tested seeking information to validate a pre set hypothesis. The experiment and the experimenter are never separate.
Stimulation is pavlovian. It's more reactive and maybe like ice-cream makes your mouth water, or alcohol makes you feel comfortable, these reactions are very subconscious and hugely self sabotaging. They are your addictions.
We will discuss this in coaching. Please do the exercise below.
Emotional Showers
When you walk in the door at home, are you there, or still thinking about work? Is that respect?
When you sit at dinner with your partner are you actually there, or grumpy, thinking about the future or the past.
Do you know that your children just want you to turn up in this moment. Nothing more or less.
How are you after someone pisses you off at work? Do you carry it for days?
The Emotional Shower is the process that helps you transition smoothly from work to home, between meetings and during a sport event. But you need to practice it for 6 weeks for it to become natural. Try it.
When you sit at dinner with your partner are you actually there, or grumpy, thinking about the future or the past.
Do you know that your children just want you to turn up in this moment. Nothing more or less.
How are you after someone pisses you off at work? Do you carry it for days?
The Emotional Shower is the process that helps you transition smoothly from work to home, between meetings and during a sport event. But you need to practice it for 6 weeks for it to become natural. Try it.
Clear your mind, open your heart. The discard process.
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