Learning to Listen ... The secret to being heard
Listening is the secret to being heard.
Active listening involves interupting the speaker to
Here's an example.
My dog got out and ran accross the road today and nearly died. We were so scared and there were cars everywhere. Truly, we thought we'd lost her. That's the third time it's happened.
Ok, for me, there are so many moments in this dialogue to intervene and demonstrate listing.
"...nearly died" would be the first, "oh, no you mean it nearly got hit by a car?" It shows you are listening and empathetic. Then, "We were so scared" - I'd interject with "how awful, ...
This is a trivial example but there are so many conversations that we allow to slip right through the system and we automatically stop listening.
This article on conscious conversations is great, although the listening aspect isn't emphasised it does talk about radio active points when we react and ultimately stop listening/communicating.
Enjoy the article here.
Are you listening?
Active listening involves interupting the speaker to
- Never challenge
- Always repeat
- Always show enthusiasm...
Here's an example.
My dog got out and ran accross the road today and nearly died. We were so scared and there were cars everywhere. Truly, we thought we'd lost her. That's the third time it's happened.
Ok, for me, there are so many moments in this dialogue to intervene and demonstrate listing.
"...nearly died" would be the first, "oh, no you mean it nearly got hit by a car?" It shows you are listening and empathetic. Then, "We were so scared" - I'd interject with "how awful, ...
This is a trivial example but there are so many conversations that we allow to slip right through the system and we automatically stop listening.
This article on conscious conversations is great, although the listening aspect isn't emphasised it does talk about radio active points when we react and ultimately stop listening/communicating.
Enjoy the article here.
Are you listening?
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Listening SkillsClose your eyes and focus on what you can hear without distraction of visual input. Try to identify the location of individual sounds in the background. Notice the variety, texture, and complexity of sounds. Then, cup your hands around your ears and use them to localize sounds (just as animals with large ears alter the shape and direction of their ears to locate sounds). Try cupping both hands around one ear and using your hands to focus the sounds. Next, move around in your environment and use solid objects as sound conductors (e.g., when you pass a big tree, put your head down next to it and notice what you can hear).
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